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 Little Thoughts by Sam: Friendship
Another sleepless night, so here's a short (or maybe not so short) post on friendship. (I swear I love this Little Thoughts Birdy picture)
So, today's topic, Friendship. Something thatan be so simple yet so complicated. But wells, never understood what made things so complicated in the first place.
Friendship between males and females
There has always been the social stigma that guys and girls cannot be good friends. Never understood why or how this came about but yeah, it's really been something that really bothers me a lot.
Ever since young, my besties were always guys, well except for Crescent days cuz where can you find guys in the school except for teacher and the TAs who were really good buddies. And it's never occurred to me that guys and girls being good friend means that they have some feeling for each other. Well I don't deny the fact that I might have lead some of my friends on in the past due to my actions, but I still don't agree that becuase of gender, we cannot be good friends.
Now that I'm in engineering, it's pretty much a guy land and well, my group of close friends from uni are all guys. Don't see anythig wrong with that, yet there are people telling me not to stick too close to them, or that I don't belong there. Why?
Why is there this need for girls to always be with girls and guys to always be with guys. Who came up with this social construct?!
In other news, I'm pretty sure that sometimes the opposite gender can make better friends because they think differently. We are all programmed differently and there are time when my guy friends can relate with me more. And also, maybe we just relate better with people of the opposite gender. Is there something wrong with that?
Act like you're attached
Another thing that's been at the back of my head for a really long time is the phrase 'can you act like you're attached' Yes! I understand that I'm attached and I shouldn't be leading people on but I'm pretty sure that I've made that very clear to all my close buddies and it's pretty obvious that I treat them like brothers. Never understood what is wrong with minor skinship like jabbing or shoulder massages. But people keep telling me to act more like an attached girl. What do they actually want ? How do attached people act? Is there a law or something that states that attached people have to stay away from the opposite gender ? Or is it just your own beliefs that you are trying to impose on others.
Everytime I get 'too close' to a guy, people say that I'm flirting around. But I still see nothing wrong with it. It's not like I'm cheating on my boyfriend with this guy. (On this note, let's make it straight, im entirely against cheating and it really irks me when someone cheats on their partner. These people really no go sia)
To end this off, I just say that friendship shouldn't be something that is based off gender. If two people can click well, then I think there's nothing wrong with them being close friends.
Oh wells, the world is such. Thanks for reading this rant like post.
Till next time,
Sam^^
*Updates!* Was really too lazy to start another post regarding this topic but reality check, what I thought would not matter still does. Well, one of the reasons why I'm starting a new post is because it'll attract unwanted attention (and I ask myself everyday, do I want this attention). Well, back to the main topic, I guess it's true that females cannot always be with guys. There is just some things that cannot be shared, there are some things that "cannot be said". Not sure if it's just me, but the whole "just because you are a girl I cannot say some things and carries on to whisper and laugh with the other guys" thing is really annoying. Maybe it doesn't affect most people and I guess it's because of my past. But it really hurts. Really really hurts to see this kind of things happening. When there is a 'us' and 'her' in the group, I really don't know how most people can survive. This will probably be taken as another PMS or mood swings but I will say that it's not. What happened today really allowed me to understand what my senior said. "No matter what you are still a girl and you cannot only have guy friends" because they can never treat you as a friend, no matter how much I try, there's still going to be that barrier. Guess, it's back to the hole, just when I thought that I can start trusting people and being myself, why must they do this to me. Labels: 2017, Friends, Little Thoughts by Sam, random, Reflection |
